when we’re talking about down south, there are three types of men: head men, shaft men, and balls men. occasionally you also get the asshole man, for whom i also include the perineum, though i haven’t had much experience to gather data on how to milk this type of guy for what he’s worth. if you have any insights, please write in and share the wealth! depending on what kind of man you encounter sexually will significantly determine how your session will proceed, especially foreplay. it will affect the way you give head, the way you stroke him, and if you’re with an adventurous lover, it will also play a fun, sexy part of post-climax as well. a few tips for dealing with the main three:
The Head Man
hand job: using either lubricant, saliva, or the guy’s pre-ejaculate, just focus on working over the head of his penis. you’ll be able to tell whether the guy likes it fast and rough, a gentle touch, or if he wants you to pull on the skin a bit whenever your palm moves in the upward motion of the job. you can play with the motion of your hand, and don’t feel that you need to stick to the ’straight up, straight down’ stroke that most girls learn when they first encounter an erect penis. you can swirl your hand as though your polishing a fine piece of wood, use more than one hand (i’d suggest interlocking your fingers to increase pressure against his member between your palms if you choose this), etc – the possibilities are endless! for both circumcised and uncircumcised guys, where the primary goal is to make sure you stroke up and down the head (ending your hand movements right after the ridge of his penis that connects to his shaft) and pulling that skin as taut as you can get it. this sensation (i’m told) is reminiscent of when a guy begins to enter you during sex, which – for a head man – is enough to make his knees quiver. in my experience it’s the head guys that are easiest to get off with a hand job.
oral sex: similar to the hand job, there isn’t much need to focus on much else than on the head. if the guy is circumcised, make sure you create good suction around the head and come down on his penis slowly, simulating vaginal penetration, and once it’s completely in your mouth pull your lips as tightly around as you can (while, of course, also being sure that you pull your lips over your teeth too, so that there aren’t any painful teeth-scraping accidents.. especially on the head). begin to work him slowly, and then get your tongue involved. swirl it around the ridge, or if you have an especially long tongue, try to curve the tip of your tongue so that it runs along underneath the ridge. this move will drive him wild. also, holding his shaft for control, as you pull away from his head while sucking him, keep your lips tightly around the head and start to flick the tip of your tongue against the opening of his urethra, preferably perpendicular to his dick so your tongue pries open that little sheath of ecstasy apart. continue and don’t be afraid to get creative, not just with your tongue, but with your lips. but don’t just stop there with giving him a little mouth action – even the inside of your cheek can make him go wild. if you’re comfortable pushing his dick far enough in your mouth, have his head run against the inner layer of your cheek, similar to those science experiments we did in middle school when we scraped the inside of our cheek with a toothpick or a cotton swab to look at our cells under a microscope, though this time, instead of using a cotton swab, we’re using a swollen, throbbing, erect penis. for guys that are uncircumcised, you can do all these moves just the same, except that it will feel SENSATIONAL for him if you make sure that you push your hand down and expose his head from that extra layer and then proceed as outlined here, being sure to keep that skin pulled back with your hand.
using him to stimulate you: hopefully going down on your man will stimulate you enough to get your juices flowing as well, and before penetration, try teasing him a bit by using his cock as a kind of sex toy – take his dick in your hand and bring it towards your vagina and use his head to run against your clit up and down: it will not only feel great if you’re wet (and if you’re not, you’ll get there with this move), and being thisclose to entering you and feeling like a dildo will get him even harder. guys don’t just love knowing that you know how to get yourself hot, but also being used physically to get you there.
post-orgasm: after he comes – and this works whether he’s come inside you or on your body – you can re-enact any of the moves from a handjob to a blowjob, depending on your comfort level and how sensitive his head is. you can work his head with your hand, using his ejaculate as lubricant, and if he can stand it (and hell, even if he can’t), you’ll feel the head swell first and then soften under your fingers.. an amazing sensation. if you go down on him, try sucking gently on his head with just your lips, and as you pull your mouth away, give him a couple good flicks of the tongue right at the opening. if you like guys that moan, then you’ll definitely get what you want out of him this way.
The Shaft Man
hand job: using lubricant or saliva, first begin working the guy’s dick in your hand as mentioned in the ‘head man’ section above, except this time slowly transition to moving your hand down to his shaft. for the shaft man i’d recommend experimenting a lot more with different motions than just straight up and down as i suggested in the ‘head man’ section, as the shaft becomes much stiffer and less pliable than the head when a guy’s hard – you’ll need to compensate for the inflexibility with a bit of creative variation. the polishing move described above is usually a winner, and if you’ve got the finger strength for it, try pushing your thumb directly into the shaft right down the middle, slowly going all the way up till you reach the head, then take the entire head in your palm and release. repeat until he can’t take it anymore and begs you to let him go in.
oral sex: you’ve got to get in some serious jaw action when going down on a shaft man. after playing with his head for a bit, then take a deep breath as you begin to put more of him in your mouth. you can either put him in slowly, keeping your lips tight around him (make sure he’s lubricated enough for this), or keep your lips relatively loose and then squeeze him hard with tight lips when you get a decent amount of shaft in your mouth. either one should produce satisfying results. i’ve been graced with the ability to dislodge my jaw, which is great for shaft guys so i can open my mouth extremely wide, take the latter approach of putting as much of the shaft in my mouth as i can, and then tightening around him once i’ve got him in. the advantages of a move like this means that not only do you have most of his dick in your mouth, but when you tighten your lips, your throat will instinctively follow and he’ll get a huge pulse from your lips and throat across his entire shaft. of course, there’s nothing wrong with a slow, tantalizingly wet, tight, seductive descent on the shaft, and if you gradually work faster he’ll have to pull your face away because he’ll be ready to blow his load any second. other fun suggestions are taking him out of your mouth and licking the underside of his shaft with your tongue, pointed or relaxed (like licking an ice cream cone), or pursing your lips and creating a small suction that you can run from the base of his shaft up to just below the head.
using him to stimulate you: this one can feel great not just before penetration, but during sex as your clit starts to swell. have your guy get on top of you, and have the underside of his shaft rub against your clit as his simulates thrusting inside you. not only will it give both of you plenty of lubrication before he enters you if you’re already wet, but the sensation of the ridge of his head – and then the shaft to follow – rubbing against your clit and pushing the hood up with every thrust will both get you ready for an exciting romp in bed.
post-orgasm: some guys may not be able to handle this, but fuck is it ever worth the try – after the shaft guy comes, try the same move as mentioned in the hand job section of pushing your thumb into the middle of penis, starting at the base of the shaft and pressing all the way up to the head. it should still be hard and easy to find right after you guy’s blown his top off. you can also use your entire hand to work his dick, just putting more emphasis on that middle part with increased pressure than you’ll use with your other fingers. another fun one is to slowly work your thumb across this hard, middle part, slowly and in small strokes, and you’ll feel the hardened middle pulse and his head move from left to right if you’re watching closely. he may not be paying attention to how it looks though, because he’ll be too busy looking at you wide-eyed, with his jaw hanging open, and unsure of whether to tell you to stop because it feels too damn good and he’s too sensitive from coming or to throw you back on the bed for round 2.
The Balls Man
hand job: ah, the balls man. what’s nice for this guy is that you can work his entire dick – head and shaft together, as you please, though for him you can also use your other hand for best supporting role. as you’re working on his dick with one (the most comfortable position is if he’s on his back and you’re sitting next to him for balance) hand, slowly start massaging his balls in your other, similar to those meditative balls that some swirl in their hands for relaxation. you won’t be able to have the balls switch positions like those balls, but these balls have a MUCH nicer payoff than those things some people have in decorative boxes on their office desks. play it by ear and see how he feels, because he may either like the simple massaging of them, with gentle squeezes here and there, or he may want you to gently pull the balls away from his body, increasing blood flow in his nether regions as you’re pulling his testicles away from his body cavity (essentially, you’re encouraging that his body do the opposite of what it does naturally when he’s cold – when the testicles suck back up INTO the cavity for warmth. you’re making them stay warm on their own and hang free). you can of course do both, there’s no saying that you have to choose one method to the other and stick with it. have fun!
oral sex: essentially the same approach is used for going down on a balls man. work his dick any way you want with your mouth, so long as you’ve got hands to back up the stimulation as aforementioned. or, if you’re especially adventurous, you can always try teabagging. teabagging is when the guy descends on your face and puts his balls in your mouth. suck gently on them, as they’re a mouthful and easy to gag on, but just breathe normally through your nose, go slow, and a good time will be had by all.
using him to stimulate you: i’ve found that the best ways to get some goodies out of playing with a balls man is during intercourse. if you fuck doggy-style, where the guy is thrusting inside you from behind (on the bed, against a wall or piece of furniture, both standing, one standing, etc), make sure you’re wet enough that he can start to thrust hard and fast, to the point where his balls should start smacking against your ass, and if you’re lucky, against your clit if they can go that far around. this is a great sensation especially if you’re playing with yourself, or if he’s stroking your clit, while getting fucked, because either your hand or his will have to compete with his balls and the variety of sensations is out of this world.
post-orgasm: as when you’re giving him a hand job, see how he responds to pulling his balls away from his body after they’ve emptied out in you or on you (or both!). also, there should be a hard, flat spot right under his balls (i believe this is the male G-spot) – after he comes, press down on this and it may not just be a moan that comes out of him.
so there you have it: just a few tips from your friendly neighborhood sex-crazed gal. any other suggestions, recommendations, feedback if you’ve tried any of the above moves and the results? let me hear from you!
